I’m not scared of sobriety anymore
My passion for life is suddenly ignited
So many possibilities I can see hopefully
Is this beautiful gift really for me?
Will I really wake up feeling refreshed and free?
No worries about getting behind the wheel for me
I’m sorted and responsible
Not a liability
I’m learning it’s not less
It’s actually more
I think I’m only sorry
I didn’t try it before
There is definitely a difference between giving something up and knowing when you’ve had enough, of a person, situation, bad habit or anything When you are sick of your own bullshit and know it needs to change, even if you weren’t that bad. There is a point where you’re right ok, next chapter and it better be worth it. There’s a point where what you want more is different to what you wanted before. You might still hanker for it secretly, like a bad boyfriend with his motorbike, leather jacket and too cool to care attitude but you know it would be going nowhere at all.
It wouldn’t give you what you need now. Perhaps the devilishly handsome bad boyfriend just embodies your youth, freedom from responsibility, rebellion, permission to be selfish and have fun but was it really real?
Sure there were good times and anticipation of whether they’d be at the same party or night out as you, would they notice you and come over to chat?
Looking back on my student days if I had my time again I’d see that aloof, sexy boyfriend differently. I’d think he was arrogant, cliched, rude and narcissistic but back then he was a challenge. Now thinking about it he was a bit of a tw@t I wouldn’t give the time of day to.
So perspectives change over time, I wouldn’t ever drink 20/20 again or Thunderbird, or Blastaways or unidentified cocktails urgh. My friends joke they taught me to drink wine as I always used to go for Tia Maria and coke lol I must’ve been an expensive date 🤣
Anyway these irresponsible, fun, ill advised times, black outs occasionally, falling asleep in taxis or the time I got ready with friends to go out dressed as superheros ( I was Catwoman), I spent ages getting my costume on point etc then decided to stay in the taxi and go home as I was tired and drunk or as a student walking home 3 miles at 2am from the student union as i missed the safety bus (what was I thinking?) and lots of other stuff over the years I just….I’m ready for less toxic shit in my life.
I’m ready for more, more meaning, more depth to things, more colour and beauty and appreciation of life and smiles, even bad moods, complex emotions, figuring things out, working hard, family time, real cuddles instead of cuddling myself in wine.
I think with sobriety you just get more, more opportunities, more appreciation for good food, remembering conversations, having great conversations, feeding your sparkly brain knowledge, memories, experiences, precious moments rather than dumbing it down with alcohol. You can still be silly, sexy, funny, argumentative, naughty, immature, loving, everything really, alcohol doesn’t provide us with a personality, we own who we are. Alcohol just takes away our pause button where we have a minute to think before speaking or acting.
So why have FOMO when we actually get MORE sober?
M Moods are authentic
O Our personality is free to play &
R Really being present means our
E Experiences are enriched
I’m not letting go of you this time easily
Toxic disasters versus a lifetime of smiles
Able to problem solve
Solutions for miles
Anyway either way
Alcohol capability is still lying to me
It doesn’t know how to love
I don’t trust booze as far as I can throw it really
There’s just more to life than ethanol
And if you’re not careful
Alcohol takes it all
We deserve a life well lived
Not paying much more than you can afford to give
Sober treats could be just what you need
To fill your emotional bucket
When you want to just say fcuk it
Look at what you need emotionally
To help you enjoy your life fully, alcohol free?
F FOMO is
O One of the unhelpful
M Mindsets that
O Often steals our happiness
F Forget what
O Others are doing sometimes &
M Manage your
O Own happiness and fun
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