Category: Rebuilding our Relationships

Alcohol Takes – Thoughts on Fear, Loneliness and Living Sober

Woman looking to sky - alcohol lonliness and living sober

I have felt very lonely in my sobriety and have struggled with this since deciding to live a life free of alcohol. I’ve realized that it’s because I feel that no one really understands the sacrifices made when quitting drinking. Was it a good choice? Yes. Was it a sacrifice? Yes. There is little understanding

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How do You Stop Drinking and Stay Sober with a Partner Who Drinks?

When I stopped drinking over five years ago, there was not much in the blogs and books that I was reading that addressed how to stop drinking if your partner continued to drink. There was mention of living sober with a normy, meaning someone who could drink moderately. But, I could not find any points

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The HIDDEN despair and deaths from Alcohol-Abuse….

Alcohol kills.  Yes, it really does.  But it’s often a slow and very complex decline and the ‘cherry on the cake’ of already blighted lives.  This UK research study into Assessment Reviews of people who died from alcohol shows how complex it is. We must learn to stop stigmatising.  First, we stop stigmatising ourselves: so

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Sitting with the Contradictions

As I write this now I feel just so and happy and proud for having resisted the cravings of a Saturday night because what’s on the other side of that makes it all worth it. And what was once a garden of earthly delights is now a minefield. I’ve made a commitment to myself to exhchange all that life for a way of living which is more substantive and more meaningful. It’s not always easy, but it is worth it and it is right I strongly believe.