Category: Ourselves and our Partners-Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery

Is Alcohol Dissolving Your Relationships ?

When I first became alcohol-free, when I first stopped drinking, I was so pleased. So proud. My life opened up. I looked to my husband for support and love – and to my amazement didn’t actually get what I expected. In the cold light of day he carried on exactly like ‘him.’ 😤 What I

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Sunday Morning Calm – Spring Rain

It’s still early spring, but so far it has been mostly grey and rainy. This has begun to affect some people emotionally, so I’ve been told, and it has affected me as well.  Some days and weeks are more challenging than others and that’s just the way life is. I’ve had some good moments this

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Sunday Morning Calm- Loving Presence

I feel that I am slowly adjusting to the reality of the commitment I have made to myself to remain alcohol-free, and I have to say that it feels so right and good. I like myself a lot better. I have never been an out of control, hitting rock-bottom drinker. My friends are a little

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Feelings are like Lighthouses

I think the toughest thing to deal with when we get sober, is the onslaught of feelings. The normal human reactions and responses that we medicated for years, or decades. Christ, they come at us like huge waves in the first couple of years, no doubt about it. Sometimes tsunamis. It’s one of the reasons

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Into the long grass: Relationships, self-worth and self-esteem in early sobriety

Sure, there will be bad days when I will ponder the causes of my addiction, but as time goes by they will be fewer and further between. I will be buoyed by the fact that today, I behaved with dignity, today I did not people please, today I did not do something that went against my better nature thus causing sadness and resentment. Today I held my head high and demanded to be treated with respect because I am worth it.