Category: Winged Victory

Getting It

the vast majority of people who binge drink are highly functional. It might be the Dr that doesn’t ask you the questions he should about your drinking when he realizes that your symptoms could be alcohol related. It might be the school teacher who is just a little to edgy this morning because they are still ashamed of not remembering going to bed last night after the second bottle of wine.

A few months ago after many years of wondering, goggling, reading, questioning, doubting….I realized that it was me. And even though I really have known that for such a long time doing something about it was the hardest thing that I’ve ever done.

When I was Drinking I was Afraid

person afraid, in context of stop drinking

I was afraid that I was destroying my health. I was afraid that the whites of my eyes were turning yellow I was afraid that I was an alcoholic I was afraid that I couldn’t stop drinking I was afraid of Sobriety Afraid I’d be dull Afraid I’d lose my friends Afraid I couldn’t do

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How Much Wine is too Much ?

Corks, inspiration for sober

I’ve often worried that I might someday have to stop Drinking. When I was twenty nine I won a job with an orchestra in Portugal and unexpectedly found myself packing my bags and leaving the United States. The morning after my going away party when I woke up with a dreadful hangover a friend told

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Excusing The Rapist Is As Toxic As Blaming the Victim

It is extraordinary that a jury of twelve unanimously found Brock Turner guilty of three counts of sexual assault. In our culture, where rape is rarely reported or subsequently prosecuted, the likely ordeal of being accused by the defense of provoking their own rape is often more than even the bravest sexual assault victims can

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The Genie in the Bottle

At the beginning of my second alcohol free year my skin is glowing, my metabolism has balanced out I can pretty much eat what I want without worrying about my weight. For me the biggest difference however is not how I look but how I feel. At fifty one I feel ten years younger than I did at forty nine. I’m happier, more energized, more genuine and spontaneous. This new completely sober middle aged me is full of creative drive and looking to the future with a zest I haven’t felt since my late twenties.