“We Love it, we commiserate with it, we celebrate with it, but you have a Problem with It, and Nobody wants to talk to You”
That’s how the BBC series ‘Like Minds: Why is using alcohol to cope so common?‘ begins.
Whether you call it alcohol abuse, alcoholism or alcohol use disorder, alcohol addiction is deadly. Sometimes it takes people quickly for reasons obviously related to the drinking, sometimes it takes people suddenly in accidents or violent outbursts, sometimes it compounds depression and inspires suicide and sometimes it slowly erodes the quality of a person’s life dissolving their relationships and self-esteem before they die of cancer, a stroke or a heart attack that could have been prevented.
It can be a deeply depressing subject to discuss and anyone who has been in a recovery community for long sees a lot of death. It’s no wonder the 12 steps of AA starts with
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
My alcohol addiction was the kind that would most likely have taken me slowly after eroding my relationships and self esteem. I was a traditional high functioning alcoholic, drinking 10 or more units quickly most nights but getting up early to make my kids breakfast and run off to work while the hamster wheel went round and round.
I never hit the kind of rock bottom from which I was able to say humbly that I was powerless or that my life had become unmanageable. When I stopped drinking I felt a bit guilty and nervous about resisting that famous first step but I knew that it was empowerment I was reaching for.
I found a cyber-community that allowed me to work my own recovery the way that I needed to work it. I read voraciously, stayed accountable by writing almost every day and my recovery surprised me by being the discovery of the voice I’d drowned for years.
If you, like me, do not resonate with the traditional steps to recovery don’t be afraid and don’t feel guilty. Find your own way. In the end, finding your own way in a culture that glorifies the need to drink, is what sobriety is all about!
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