Tackle Business Trips Alcohol-Free

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I have had to travel quite a bit on business, and dealing with the airports / airplanes / and coworker drink fests were hard at first. Advance planning and even rehearsals are your key. I have gone into a bathroom stall at the airport to mutter, “club Soda , please” just to be sure my favorite alcohol drink name didn’t slip out. It’s even harder when you’re sitting next to someone on the plane and you can smell it. Just keep running the tape in your head of what you’re going to order. Don’t revisit that decision. You are not drinking alcohol. Non-negotiable.

If you can get a non drinking buddy on the other end to have your back, even better. I did this my first trip. That way, I knew if something or someone overrode my resolve to not drink, my coworker promised to swoop in and stop it. You CAN do this. !!

Flying Sober

For the plane trip

1. Do not spend that money in the bar –

go to the book store and magazine stand and buy the paperback that calls out to you, or pick up a celebrity magazine and look at photos of buff celebs. Grab a Woman’s Health and start planning your next marathon 

Seriously this will make your plane trip faster. You will not have to get up and pee. You will not be as dehydrated from the airplane. You will arrive oh so much more alert and your irritation at the overall horrible and dehumanizingness of the airport security experience will dissipate more quickly. 

2. If you can live on an expense account order room service.

Do NOT go into the bar and see all those sad sacks drinking their way through dinner. If this is not possible go for a walk. Listen to a podcast (still love Since Right Now – badass and hilarious podcast on sober living) and breathe. Then grab some food wherever you must. And drink soda water and breathe

3.  Those stupid networking sessions with Alcohol?

Brush your teeth before you go. And remember. You do this session in fifteen-minute increments. Your first one AF you just need to get through it. You can nail it later.

First fifteen minutes you walk in with your minty fresh breath and you smile at the bartender and tell her you are not drinking tonight and get a soda and cranberry with some lime. Then you find one person in the room and ask them how they are doing and listen to their answer. You’ve now just nailed the first fifteen minutes. 

Now you go on to the second fifteen-minutes, and person. Tell them one good thing that is going on relevant to work and ask if they have had a similar experience. – second fifteen minutes DONE

Third fifteen-minutes. Cruise the room and see if someone else is not drinking. If so walk over to them and ask them how they are enjoying the event and point out one thing you notice in the room – this can be totally random – seriously this is just to micro map it out for yourself. 

Fourth fifteen-minute increment – go refill that soft drink girl and find the person in the room that is wearing a piece of clothing you like. If you know them ask them something relevant about work. If you work with them but don’t know them ask them where they got their rockin piece of clothing and comiserate about shopping – women can do this across cultures. Then ask them what they do and tell them what you do. 

You are now on your last fifteen minutes – go to the most powerful person in the room – likely the one that is responsible for you being there – and look that person straight in the eye and smile at her or him with your minty breath. Say that this has been a great evening but you are training for a marathon and need to be up at 4:45 am and need to get going. Then flee

Get back to your room and take a bath and brush your teeth and lounge in your awesome hotel bed and high five the crap out of yourself. 

It worked for me. 😉 I hope it works for you. Let me know how it goes 

But What about the Fear of Missing Out ? or FOMO

I rarely get triggered now but when I do it’s usually when I feel ‘left out.’

For example – When the focus of the ‘do’ I’m at is solely on drinking alcohol.

But it’s not the alcohol I really want it’s the camaraderie that seems to happen between drinkers when they drink if that makes sense.

But I know it’s a false vision.

You don’t see the same people when they 3am awaken with dry mouth, anxiety, fear and self loathing of what you may have said or done.

So I shrug off these triggers and see them for the false promises that they are.

I had a huge trigger earlier this year in a restaurant as I looked around the room and saw everyone drinking alcohol.

I realised that I would never have that ‘boost’ to enjoyment that everyone else has at the swig of a glass.

That change in brain patterns that a drug can give you.

 The change of mood that alcohol can bring in an instant.

And for a moment I was sad about that.

So what I was really missing was the change of brain pattern the drug alcohol brings.

Because the truth is – that’s what I drank it for……..

But I was simply hungry and a little grumpy. And so I ate my meal and I had the most gorgeous pudding/sweet to end my meal.

And I was fine again and the trigger hadn’t killed me.

I know now that you can change your own mood by shifting stance, smiling, telling yourself you’re ok, and focusing on something good, feeling good about what you’re doing.

 Or you can just accept that on this occasion you can’t change your mood and remove yourself from the situation.

What I’m trying to say is that I accept that whenever I’m triggered it’s the change in mood I’m looking for and rejoice in the fact that I have self taught myself to change my mood or accept it for what it is without a drug.

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