Tag: Addiction

Thawing Out the Fear of Going Sober

Bud breaking through snow - Thawing out the Fear of going sober

Going sober can be so hard in the beginning. Most of us feel a freezing shame when we decide that we need to stop drinking. We are afraid that we won’t be able to learn to live alcohol-free. Starting out sober is like learning any life skill. We are afraid that we will slip. That

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You Can Do the Hard Things

Nobody is coming to save you . Be your own sober hero

I don’t think I ever fully understood the phrase “the work of sobriety”.  Sobriety seemed a passive process.  By its very nature – you don’t pick up a drink.  You’re NOT doing something.  That’s passive. Maybe that’s why sober didn’t stick last year when I first tried to stop drinking.  I don’t think I fully

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What Does it Really Take to Quit Drinking?

The best decision I ever made was the final decision to quit drinking, which, for me, took tons of bravery, a lot of work, a little education, some mental and emotional strength, unrelenting patience, a strong commitment, community and a whole bunch of self compassion. I actually made the decision to quit many times before

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Coming Home to Myself at 7 Months Sober

The Besty Dreams Happen When You are awake - Coming Home to Myself at 7 months sober

I just flew sober for the first time in my adult life. Maybe that doesn’t sound like a big deal, but after 26 years of associating air travel with airport bars and the cocktail cart, I was afraid that I couldn’t handle flying alcohol-free. Rather than checking in and numbing out I was awake and

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