Tag: Mindfulness

Lengthening my Fuse in my 2nd Year Sober

Patience is something I have always struggled with. When I want something, I want it now. I have always been that way. I wanted to fast forward through childhood and be a teenager. Once I was a teenager, I could not wait to get to college. I spent a great deal of my life anxiously

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You Can Do the Hard Things

Nobody is coming to save you . Be your own sober hero

I don’t think I ever fully understood the phrase “the work of sobriety”.  Sobriety seemed a passive process.  By its very nature – you don’t pick up a drink.  You’re NOT doing something.  That’s passive. Maybe that’s why sober didn’t stick last year when I first tried to stop drinking.  I don’t think I fully

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Coming Home to Myself at 7 Months Sober

The Besty Dreams Happen When You are awake - Coming Home to Myself at 7 months sober

I just flew sober for the first time in my adult life. Maybe that doesn’t sound like a big deal, but after 26 years of associating air travel with airport bars and the cocktail cart, I was afraid that I couldn’t handle flying alcohol-free. Rather than checking in and numbing out I was awake and

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Surrender and Empower – Emotional Sobriety

Hand catching feather surrender and empower emotional sobriety

I’ve been thinking a lot about control; what it means in relation to my mental health, my behaviors and my drinking. In the past, whenever life felt “out of control” for me, I chose to drink. The anxiety, frustration and fear that bubbled up inside of me when I didn’t have control over things, made

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