Tag: stayingsober

Distraction and the art of candlemaking

One of the craziest things about being sober is being caught in some sort of time-space continuum.The first few sober days are horrible. I can still remember that feeling of clinging onto the edge of a cliff by my very short fingernails: the awful cravings and the sleeplessness. The sleeplessness was the pits. For me,

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The Seductive Allure of Lying about Addiction

When I was pregnant I did not drink a drop but I did continue to smoke a bit. I had learned that alcohol could hinder brain developemnet in utero and there was no way I would take the chance of getting my babies drunk. I managed however, to talk myself into believing that three cigarettes

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Staring it Right in the Eyes

I imagine my fear as a huge dragon that takes many different forms. Health scares with my children, relationship problems, death, work stress, my underlying value. The dragon has a different label, but it’s the same. And I am trying now, as a completely sober person, to stare it right in the eyes. I don’t want to let it chase me off. I don’t want to keep running forever or hiding in the forest or looking over my shoulder. I want to be able to stand out on the edge of the canyon and see it all. I want to feel free and strong, not held back by fear.

Dancing with the Devil I Know

Nice to meet you; My name is ‘Al’, You ask me ‘What’s your aim?’. I am your very best friend, just listen, I’ll explain. I can make you feel good, take away your doubt, your fear, your pain. You can be free, One of us, the In Crowd, the ones who know what there is

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