What Does it Really Take to Quit Drinking?

The best decision I ever made was the final decision to quit drinking, which, for me, took tons of bravery, a lot of work, a little education, some mental and emotional strength, unrelenting patience, a strong commitment, community and a whole bunch of self compassion. I actually made the decision to quit many times before

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What if it Takes 7 Years to Master Staying Sober? It’s Worth it!

It's a Process not a diagnosis - Staying sober

In early 2013 I realized that I might have an issue with drinking and control. I was successful, hardworking, athletic, and recently divorced. The divorce set me off my normal routine. I had more nights out with the guys and clients, so there was an excuse to drink every night. Two or three beers a night

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ALCOHOL PART 1, 2, 3 and 4

You have to trust the person that on day one knew it was the right choice to put down the drink

ALCOHOL PART 1 Over many years I was slowly sucked into papering over the thoughts in my head and the cracks in my life with the thought changing drug called alcohol. My growing dependence on my crutch was so subtle and so insidious that by the time I realised I was seriously trapped I couldn’t

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Thawing Out the Fear of Going Sober

Bud breaking through snow - Thawing out the Fear of going sober

Going sober can be so hard in the beginning. Most of us feel a freezing shame when we decide that we need to stop drinking. We are afraid that we won’t be able to learn to live alcohol-free. Starting out sober is like learning any life skill. We are afraid that we will slip. That

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Stewy and the Possum

This morning, when I let my dog outside for his morning business, his stance went from the casual dog waiting for a treat, to an avid hunter, and he raced like a greyhound to the back corner of our yard.  Before I could even scream his name, Stewy had captured and snapped the neck of

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