I’ve been thinking today about the “Law of Attraction.” What is the “Law of Attraction?” you ask. In a nutshell, the Law of Attraction says that “like attracts like.” Or, said another way, we receive (or achieve) those things we think the most about.
There are a couple of quotes that I think illustrate this idea really well. The first quote is from Henry Ford, and it says:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.”
The second quote comes from Richard Bach in his wonderful book, Illusions:
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.”
Both of these quotes speak to the idea that we “achieve what we believe.”
Professional car racers are taught early in their career that “you drive where you’re looking.” When a race car driver starts to lose control of their car, the most natural thing in the world for them is to immediately look at the crash wall. After all, that’s their fear at that moment: their car careening out of control into the wall. Guess what? If they keep looking at the wall, that’s exactly where they are going to end up, their race car wrecked and damaged beyond the point of continuing the race.
Instead, professional race drivers are taught to focus on the spot in the race track where they want to end up. It will be a spot in the middle of the track, away from the crash wall. A spot where their car will be safe and their race will continue. They are taught to have singular focus on that spot and not to allow the other cars to distract them. Through that focus, through that belief they can control their car to the safe spot on the track, drivers are able to avoid disaster.
This idea applies to our everyday lives as well. As a coach, what if at a pivotal moment in a game, I tell my players to “not screw up.” Guess what’s going to happen? They’re going to screw up, because THAT is what I’ve just conditioned them to think about. I have set the stage for their failure. Instead, what if I pull my players aside, look each one of them in the eyes, and say, “after we score, and we WILL score, here’s what I want you to do …” I have just created a totally different dynamic in their minds.
How does that apply to drinking? What if I am constantly saying to myself, “I want a drink, but I can’t have one. I’m AF right now. But, wow, a drink sounds so good, I really want one. But NO, I can’t have one, I’m AF.” This thought process is exactly the same as a car driver staring at the crash wall. No matter what their intention, they are going to drive where they’re looking. Crash.
But, what if my thoughts sounds more like, “I really feel good today, lots of time and energy. I’m going to get some exercise, ’cause I’ve been saying for ages I need to exercise more. And I’m going to sit down at the computer and write for a bit, ’cause I love writing and I really want to start again. I love all this energy and clarity I have!” Now I’m looking at the spot on the race track where I want to go! Race on! 😃
So, when you’re struggling and those cravings start to feel overwhelming, change your focus! Stop staring at the crash wall, start focusing on where you want to go, and who you want to be! Because if you think you CAN thrive in your new and amazing Alcohol-free life …
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