One of the women in my online community asked for help to get through Drunksgiving, without drinking. She was struggling to stop drinking and stay sober but wondered how she could celebrate this holiday alcohol-free, on a night when it seemed that EVERYONE in her world would not only be drinking but be celebrating getting drunk.
“Drunksgiving” is the beginning of a Holiday Season filled with pressure to drink. The National Today website softens the official/unofficial holiday to “Drinksgiving” but there page is the first of many that came up in my internet search of the word “Drunksgiving“
“DrinksGiving is the ultimate homecoming celebration. Local bars are packed as adults returning home for Thanksgiving weekend meet up with friends and family and catch up over drinks and laughter. It’s like a Springsteen song plays out in real life every year.“
When did “Drunksgiving” become an official, unofficial holiday?
Is “Drunksgiving” just the natural progression that follows celebrating the beginning of the school year by bragging about drinking wine in your PJs all day?
When did we become an adult culture that bullies each other to feel like we HAVE to drink to fit in?
It’s been reported often over the past few years that early deaths from alcohol abuse are at record levels and on the rise. The biggest increase in fatalities are among women. Alcohol is killing more people, and younger. The biggest increases are among women. These reports and statistics are depressing but not surprising in a culture where wine and alcohol are sold as the panacea to the stress of modern life.
I’ve been reading articles like the one linked above since I stopped drinking almost five years ago. In early sobriety, I expected other people to see the same articles and fight back as well, or at least question the alcohol industry gleefully touting drinking wine daily as a healthy choice. But sadly, the articles that tell you wine will help you lose weight and fend off heart disease still get a lot more social media shares than those saying people, especially women, are dying in record numbers.
When I stopped drinking, I had no idea where to look for help. I knew that I needed to go sober but I also knew that I needed an alternative to Alcoholics Anonymous. Attending AA meetings seemed an impossible addition to my already full schedule. I needed a community focused on celebrating alcohol-free living. I needed accountability, resources, and support and I needed it to come to me. Luckily, in this world where alcohol is the only drug that people will question you for NOT using, a world where Drunksgiving and Mommy’s Morning Wine Time are celebrated, there is a huge, supportive, and diverse online community of people encouraging each other to Rethink the Drink. On private sites and public platforms, from Facebook to Twitter to Reddit to Instagram, people are reaching out with a fresh perspective on staying sober.
If you are afraid that you might become a statistic, if you want support to learn how to celebrate life alcohol-free, REACH OUT! We’re here.
Five years ago when I was 49, I was tired and fed up—and dull. I was dragging around a bottle of wine like a ball and chain that I thought I NEEDED, DESERVED, and had EARNED. Celebrating alcohol-free at an event like “Drunksgiving” would have felt impossible to me. It took some time to adjust to ending a day without a bottle or two of wine. But at almost five years sober, I am vibrant and free and I am never turning back!
With so many diverse voices online today, no one has to feel alone or misunderstood in their choice to celebrate alcohol-free during the drunking season. I feel empowered, happy, peaceful and free and so can you!
Thank you to all who have joined me on the road. For leading the way and walking beside me. For letting me turn and reach back to you. Sobriety truly does deliver everything that alcohol falsely promised—and so much more.
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WHO ARE WE?
Delusions of missing out this Drunksgiving ?
We aren’t missing anything
It’s a mugs game
Always seems to end the same
It’s like advertising
The product looks so appetising
But we’re buying into a dream
It’s not reality
In actuality it falls far short
And costs so so much
Way too much in many cases
People chase a high
That doesn’t last very long
It leaves them hurt and not feeling strong
The whole premise of the alcohol ideal is wrong
But the alcohol industry doesn’t wanna sell us that song
That the dream cannot materialize for very long
Before it becomes a nightmare
We should wake up and wise up I think
Put down the drink
While we still can
And while we still care
It’s stupid to die
On the back of a lie
So don’t cry
Enough is enough
It’s nasty stuff
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