Have you ever had that discussion with the drinker who can’t understand why on earth you would bother giving up drinking when clearly drinking is the source of all the good things in life? It’s a challenge that I think faces us all at some point.
In fact it is something I face all the time….
During January several friends of mine did dry January with varying degrees of success. All went back to drinking after the month (most earlier) one despite her original intention to stick it out for three months.
All of these people, as well as my continuously drinking friends, struggle with the concept of why you would do this? And then it dawned on me….
What they are comparing is a “drinking life without drinking” to a “drinking life with drinking”. My friends who gave up for January didn’t become non drinkers for January they became drinkers who through sheer will power didn’t drink in January. You can’t sell that to anyone.
I was on holiday last week and a friend of mine asked me if I would drink on holiday?
When I said “No” he said ” I wouldn’t want to go on holiday if I can’t drink whats the point!”.
The point is that a drinking holiday without drinking just like a drinking life without drinking, has no appeal at all.
I have a non drinking life where drinking doesn’t get considered. Its very different to giving up for a month. I haven’t given anything up. This sounds like word semantics but its a key element to this process (for me?).
You have to build the non drinking life and allow drinking to become more and more irrelevant as each day passes.Embrace this way of living and love it. I can honestly say that I have not given drinking much air time in the last 6 weeks. If I have its to reflect upon the ridiculousness of peoples views of drinking and their lives. When you can’t see the point of a holiday without getting smashed you need to have a word with yourself. (I have been there and did!)
This is the same point with Moderation. Whilst moderation and Dry January give your liver a break for as long as you can hold out they don’t give you a glimpse of what a non drinking life is like. They don’t show you how good the world can be without needing to get plastered. What they do is create a framework built upon denying yourself and rules that become increasingly hard to meet, until eventually, emotionally exhausted, you relax into your favourite tipple.
Ask yourself the question. Are you a drinker who is not drinking or someone who doesn’t drink? If its the former this is hard work.
If you’re Drinking too much too often Rethink the Drink.
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