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Self Care Does Not Come in a Bottle – A Newly Sober Mum Reflects on Loving Living Alcohol Free

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100 straight alcohol-free days! My first 100 days of change completed and I am a sober mum! I feel I have found my momentum and I’m rolling with it. Words can’t actually describe how I feel but I cannot forget how dark my life felt before – darkness deep in my soul because of alcohol. I cannot forget how alcohol left me feeling – empty, alone, afraid. And now I am free from the shackles of alcohol and I can truly be who I am meant to be. I feel so much lighter and healthier, happier and more appreciative and accepting of my life and what is.

Nothing spectacular has occurred, many things are the same, I’m just not drinking and that’s a massive difference to myself and my children too. Sometimes they seem to not notice or say anything about it but that’s fine. That’s the way I always wanted it. I never wanted a big deal made out of my drinking (which there was) and I’m not getting a big deal made out of my being sober. Silence is golden maybe. It’ll take time and at some point they’ll probably realise that mum is, and has been, sober for so long now.

Every moment is a moment worth living now. A moment to fight for, to be at peace with and to be grateful for. When in the grip of alcohol it sucks away from us our very life force, our natural vibrancy and energy, our joy and our peace. Now I can find the strength within to face difficulties and challenges in a much better way. So thankful and willing to continue 🙏 I cannot bear the thought of going back to a life of drinking now. I cannot imagine reliving all that I’ve been through before because of alcohol. It’s disgusting what alcohol did to me and how it made me feel.

I’m so glad to be in this place of a growing sobriety. I’m still adjusting to my sober life. Being a mum, I cannot live and concentrate solely on my needs and wants, so I do need to be more efficient and organised in making time for my interests, and do the things that I enjoy and would like to do. I do what I can when I can.

I haven’t been alcohol-free for 100 straight days in I don’t know how long. I knew it was time for a change, to end the cycle of drinking but I just couldn’t do it before and it is only because of this place, a community I stumbled over online called BOOM Rethink the Drink, that I’ve been able to. This place really “teaches” and helps get to the core of alcohol and to find the tools that work for us. I am so grateful to be a fully sober mum now. It’s seemed almost a natural change and transition and in time it’s going to be just the way things are. And it is all down to Boomland for helping me to discover and learn the tools that really work, the how-to, the joy and discovery of being AF. I am so thankful for this place and everybody here.

With all this time away from the booze, I’m finally slotting back into place. It’s a renewal, which takes time for sure. I no longer feel as tired and drained and headachey as I did in my first couple of months alcohol-free. I appreciate things more than ever; I can fully embrace and surround myself with the things that I truly love and want in my life.

I don’t think we can ever be whole if we rely on having alcohol in our lives. It sucks away all the good stuff.


More reading :

‘I would die for my children but I could not stop drinking for them’……

The Simplicity of How This Mom Finally Stopped Drinking

I’ve Had Enough of Seeing “Mommy’s Wine Time” Glamourized !


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