Are you Stuck? How to get Started on Succeeding at Sober

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Today is a New Day! ….. Stretch and Flex Those Sober Muscles

If you have been struggling to stop drinking or stay sober, Today choose THE day you are going to take it on and win through.

Start with the right frame of mind :

Fall in love with the potential of sobriety, it may not be a steady upward curve when you stop drinking but generally the longer you go alcohol free in the early days the more you feel well body and mind, RUN WITH THAT.

Never forget how awful alcohol makes you feel by contrast…Let the good stuff snowball and leave the past behind. Believe in yourself!!

Many of us drink to Relive Stress – What can you do to help relax you?

Meditation, yoga, music, an Epsom salts bath?

Read- How to Stop Drinking Away the Pain-

Listen to – Healing Through Letting Go

Urge Surfing Meditation

Calming and Opening Tara Brach

EAT!

Take your supper as a packed lunch if you work late– like a picnic (a big one ha ha) and eat it before setting off home – afternoon hunger is the biggest trigger for most of us when we stop drinking

more reading :

Alcohol Cravings and Hypoglycaemia

Alcohol sugar cravings (managing them) and the whole Gut-Brain health connection thing.

Apple - Alcohol Cravings and Hypoglycaemia

If you are romanticizing drinking – Play it Forward :

So when you’re hit by the alcohol curse
Ask yourself
Do you really wanna feel worse?
Better to work through the cravings attack
And get your smile back 😊

A poetic interlude from Floss



List throughout this week how much alcohol has cost you:

How much has alcohol cost you in time ?

worrying about it, drinking it. Being hungover, not doing stuff, being stroppy…

How much has alcohol cost you in money ?

days off work, poor performance, headache tablets, pissed purchases, carbs and pizza, booze, therapy – when I went out drinking I would come home penniless because I’d loose it all …

How much has alcohol cost you in the quality of your relationships

isolated drinking, not bothering with people, canceling…

How much has alcohol cost you emotionally

you drink because of a reason, stress – how did drink work to reduce stress?)

and so on.

related posts :

Is Alcohol Dissolving Your Relationships ?

How Does Alcohol Effect Your Relationships?

List the staying sober benefits as well

What will you gain by going alcohol free ?

Add your thoughts to this question inside BOOM

What are the top five benefits of going Alcohol-Free

Prepare yourself mentally and accept that you will get cravings but they will only have a life of 2 hours (they tend to bugger off after 2 hours or so).

Once home settle in for a very no house-work chill out evening.

TRY:

No shops this week after 2pm, food can be ordered online, or bought in advance – the aim is to keep you as safe as possible from the temptation of picking up a bottle while you out. If you do not have to stare it down at the grocery store you are less likely to buy it… if you don’t buy it you can’t drink it.

REWARD YOURSELF!

Flowers at the very least for getting through this.

related reading

Filling the Empty Space in Early Sobriety

A Poetic Homage to Kristi Coulter on Being Fine Without the Wine

EACH HURDLE BEATEN IS A BLEDDY MASSIVE SUCCESS and you are stretching those AF muscle perfectly.

Take it easy –

No frantic cleaning, cooking etc.. just keep things on an even keel.

I saved so much money when I stopped drinking that I got a cleaner for 2 hours a week. Treat yourself to a REAL indulgence that truly makes your life easier rather than one that breaks you down.

BEWARE! …

You may well find yourself thinking

oh you have done so well, have a night off and you can drink – I give you permission to drink’

Plan in exactly the same way to avoid this and you get a double success. In other words PLAN to feel good about NOT drinking.  

related reading :

The Conversation in my Head

Balloons flying, happy inspiration for staying sober

Study everything you can about the Science of Addiction and the voice that tells you to drink :


And thoughts from one of our members on watching a podcast with Annie Grace of This Naked Mind on that science behind that voice saying “just this once”


This is a short video, only about 12 minutes, in which Annie discusses one her reader’s questions with Dr. Adi Jaffe.

That question is

How long does it take to really “start feeling better after I stop drinking?”

Of course, the answer is, “it varies” In the interview with Annie and Dr, Jaffe, the doctor explains how Alcohol impacts our brains, why we feel unsettled and anxious after we stop, and why it takes a while after we stop drinking to get back to feeling like we did before we started drinking or abusing alcohol.  

I also noted that, when we stop drinking and we are going through that anxious period and we decide to give in, that rewiring of our brains gets reversed again and when we stop again, our brain rewiring has to start all over.   While we never lose our sober days or the things we learn, we do set back that healing of our brains.   The best analogy I can think of is when I was a child and would fall down and get a skinned knee.   My knee would start healing and after a few days be scabbed over and feeling better.  If I fell on that knee again, it would be skinned again and that healing would have to restart from the beginning. 

Anyway, this gives me more to think about next time I am tempted to “just this once”. 


Make it Non-negotiable today!

Decide to post in BOOM every day this week and include a question to get help from the community (e.g. what was it like for them, how did they feel, what did they do to make it do-able, what did they read or watch, think…).

If you are struggling to get going, on your chosen last day one, before the wine hour, eat and log on – it would be good if you could have a committee to check in with before and after the dodgy time. You can tag people here by typing @ and their name-


Related Posts from Inside the BOOM Community :

Denial…Acceptance .. Freedom

Scared Straight

Guide to Your First Month Sober

and from our Boozemusings Community Blog:

Yoga practice in the context of staying sober

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