Most of us are addicted to alcohol on some level when we decide to stop drinking. We may not be physically dependent but we are most likely neurologically addicted. Even with weekend binge drinking, it is possible to become neurologically addicted. If you drink routinely at a similar time under similar circumstances, your brain will learn that it needs alcohol in those situations. That could be every day at 5 pm or every Friday and Saturday night.
Addiction works on your survival instinct or
Many people are confused by why it can be so difficult to stop but if you put it in the context of survival instinct I think it’s easier to understand.
Survival instinct has NOTHING to do with rational thought.
If you are starving you will kill for food.
If you are in danger you will run or you’re body will fill with endorphins and you will fight.
You will instinctively hunger for sex because that’s how we’re wired to keep our species alive.
Survival instincts are not about making a decision they just are.
If you’ve been drinking habitually, even if the habit is Friday/Saturday, it’s that survival instinct brain that will fight to get a drink when you make the rational decision to stop.
You have to DECIDE to STOP drinking. Make it NON-Negotiable and get comfortable with being uncomfortable for a while.
The discomfort WILL pass! It won’t last forever. Once you have experienced NOT drinking repeatedly in the situations where you normally drink your brain will eventually stop trying to trick you into drinking to survive.
I remember how difficult that process is not only with drinking but also with smoking. You think that you are always going to feel that itch. That emptiness. That need. And you crack.
I paid 200 and a bit euros for Allen Carr’s online program to quit smoking, after paying 200 and a bit euros the year before for hypnosis, after paying 100 or so a few years before that for hypnosis as well. I also read Allen Carr’s quit smoking book and I paid for acupuncture and the patch and tried nicotine gum and Bach Oils.
Every single time, however, I picked up a cigarette within a week or ten days of paying someone to help me stop, usually about 24 hours, and the money and momentum went down the tubes because if I open the door, if I smoke one cigarette, or have one drink I’m sunk…. that’s how I flow..
What finally worked for me in quitting both drinking and smoking was to pick a day, accept that I was going to feel itchy, scratchy, empty. lost for a while, and then keep walking forward through the ring of fire. That meant that no matter how crappy I felt I stuck to my quit, it was absolutely non-negotiable. I found something safe to fill that empty space when I had cravings because picking up just one drink or a smoke means starting over for me. It would mean going back and feeling stuck until I got to the place where I bottomed out enough again to pick a day and accept I’m going to feel like crap for a while, over and over again, and that is something I don’t ever want to have to do again.
Because I feel really good now !!!!! In every way
I’m not edgy or nervous or apologetic or insecure or frenetic.
I’m focused, self-assured, calm, happy and able to focus my energy on creativity rather than recovery.
Paying for a program did not work for me. Somehow every time I paid for a program or technique I expected it to do the work for me.
I had to accept that it was my responsibility, I had to believe that I COULD do it, and I had to ask for help from a community.
Writing out my thoughts and feelings and sharing them. How Posting in the BOOM Community can help you Rethink the Drink
Finding my solutions. A former “Super Mom’s” Guide to Early Sobriety
Asking for help. 127 days and Counting
Reading other people’s stories and supporting them. Friends from Hello Sunday Morning
Community, vulnerability, and introspection. Denial vs Peace of Mind
This community, BOOM Rethink the Drink, plus the broader sober community in the world is reaching out to you with books and podcasts. Use those resources and learn. Open your mind to the possibilities.
Thrive don’t just survive! Decide. Survive. Then Thrive.
The way that some of us drink or drank is quite deadly, immediately dangerous, like Russian Roulette, and the only one who can make you not pick up the first drink is….. you.
Learn as much as you can about your Lizard brain
You are ALREADY a survivor. You are a FIGHTER. Heavy drinkers are SURVIVORS! We survive all kinds of stuff that other people couldn’t, that’s how we get addicted. We are NOT lightweights.
If you are a SURVIVOR and you’ve taught your Survival brain that it NEEDS alcohol by drinking habitually, your brain is going to FIGHT BACK HARD in all kinds of creative ways. Use your powerful ability to survive to fight back against the addicted instinct to drink.
You may have to fight hard, but you ABSOLUTELY CAN DO IT.
KNOWING rationally that your brain will FIGHT to trick you into drinking because it has LEARNED that it NEEDS alcohol to survive … that is the key for a while … the first key.
You’ll need to find more keys as you move forward. Reading this may help The Fuckit Bucket . But the first key is accepting and understanding that no matter what you do not NEED to drink.
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Mark Ring, Ph.D., M.A.