Today I am 50 days sober thanks to the support I found in an online community. I never expected that joining an online community was what I needed to help me stop drinking. As a secretive and deeply sensitive person, the social nature of this community, Boom Rethink the Drink, has provided a completely new approach to healing: to post daily, to commiserate, joke, relate…to rework my stories about my own drinking through communicating with and providing support to others. I am shocked when I look back at even a few months ago and remember how many negative side-effects I was ignoring, how isolated I had become, how protective I was of my drinking, how desperately I didn’t want to identify alcohol as an issue. Until I started talking about my perspective on my addiction, I didn’t understand it at all.
I think that I am a relatively intelligent and introspective person, but the stories I was telling myself were absurd, and they could just exist as is because they had no logical scaffolding with which they had to relate. I had built my whole own little world of wacky logic and untruths. In just a couple months, that’s all changed. Talking it out in this unique community has been an absolute catalyst to so much growth. Even if I have some slip-ups down the line, or somehow decide to become a moderate drinker (at this point I am not interested in this) I just don’t see my perspective on alcohol and its role in my life going back to what it once was.
Have you ever thought that you wanted to stop drinking but weren’t sure where to turn for help? The whole process might be a lot less intimidating than it seems.
We asked some of our newest members what brought them to our community, Boom Rethink the Drink, how they expect it to help them reach their goals, why they want to stop drinking or cut down on their alcohol intake, 5 things they think will be better without alcohol and also 5 things they can’t imagine doing without alcohol – Come join the conversation and Rethink the Drink!
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1. I joined boom after a random google search after realizing I needed more support than what I had. I am so glad I did!
2. Boom has exposed me to thought processes and questions that hadn’t occurred to me. It has also provided tons of resources to existing issues, concerns, good days and bad. The support is invaluable.
3. Alcohol was changing my personality for the worse. I am not as easy going as I was before the heavy drinking. I drank more than I earned, and I prioritized it over more and more. My dogs, my partner, my safety, my job. It has me like an undertow.
4. Boom, daily pledges through the I am Sober app (which is also my counter). My goal is life without drinking, and to stop being sad about the fact that I won’t get to enjoy alcohol while traveling. I will not start a family if I drink, and my partner will leave me if I don’t change those habits. My goal is to make sure I never let that happen.
5. Things they think will be better without alcohol
-conversation and remembering it
-Sex and intimacy
And five things without? Ha!
-I won’t say hurtful things without alcohol
-I won’t drink my bank account without alcohol
-I won’t fuck up my body anymore than I have already without alcohol
-I won’t lose my temper over stupid things, and articulate more clearly when something is wrong or upsetting
-I won’t enable my family or perpetuate a social construct of romanticizing something so damaging and corporate that these platforms exist because of it. (Though, I sure do love Boom.)
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1. I joined this online community because I saw an article on the blog while I was making my stop drinking plan and decided to check it out. I liked the vibe of the place.
2. For me, I think Boom has helped and continues to help by giving a judgement free space for communication. Also, I have seen a lot of fantastic ideas and great motivational post that help me see people that are happy and celebrating life without alcohol.
3. If I drink, it’s the only thing I think about. Drinking rewards every moment or it numbs me when I feel down. It makes me feel like shit. It makes me always want more. It fucks up my marriage. It makes me less present in every social interaction. It makes me resent people I actually love. It makes me act like an addict. So for all those reasons I want to stop.
4. Plan – First, I told my husband and my sister. Got them prepped. Started looking for resources and quit lit. I found Boom and I bought a mindfulness guide for addiction workbook and started reading. I made some mental and physical notes to have ready when needed (HALT, etc). Prepared for some heavy emotions to come up.
Goal – My goal is a long term AF life. I want to be free.
5. Better things – weekends, fewer migraines, being present for people I love, better guitar playing, more energy for hiking and sports.
Things I can’t imagine – hanging out with certain family, a good cheese plate, brunch, work parties, fancy dinners.
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1. I joined because I have very few non drinkers in my life.
2. I’ve tried a lot of things but need to know how others manage
4. I stopped yesterday and it’s hard to see very far beyond this moment. My goal is to stop the progression I’m currently on.
5. Things that’ll be better without alcohol ? My health, wealth, creativity, productivity, happiness-
5. Things I can’t imagine without alcohol ?
I can’t imagine visiting my in laws without alcohol
I can’t imagine hanging with friends without alcohol
I can’t imagine celebrating without alcohol
I can’t imagine hard days without alcohol
I can’t imagine growing old and never again drinking alcohol
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1. I joined because I heard Winged Victory’s interview on The Bubble Hour and I really connected to her message and the group model being free, smaller and simpler to use.
2. I think it is a more intimate group and due to that and the ease of use I post daily, get support and stay more motivated.
3. I want to stop as it has become a daily habit and I know it’s not doing my health, energy, mind or wallet any good.
4. I just stopped, which, when I am motivated, is not hard for me. I try and replace it with other activities. The stopping isn’t as hard as staying stopped is for me. After a while something will tempt me and I think I can drink just a little. I know now that I can’t, so hopefully this time will be permanent. Goal is to not go back to drinking and saving money and feeling better are my motivations.
5. Healthier, mental clarity, no hangovers, no wasted day, lose weight, save money.
Really there is nothing I can’t imagine doing without alcohol. Sometimes I miss not being able to enjoy a glass of wine with a friend or relaxing at night. But it’s never just a glass
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