If you’re trying to stop drinking how do you break the cycle of getting to day three and drinking again ?
I loved to drink. Giving it up felt like cutting off an arm. I had moments of Bliss, and Hope, and Gratitude, in my early weeks alcohol free, but I also had moments where I felt completely and utterly lost. Exiting the roller coaster ride of drink, drunk, regret was dizzying. I didn’t fit in my own skin for a while.
I knew that I had to cut the umbilical cord because my drinking had become dangerous and unpredictable. I had found time and time again that no matter how casually my drinking might be at the beginning of the evening, it routinely lead to a binge. Writing this post, One Glass Won’t Hurt in my fourth AF month has helped me remember clearly, even three years later, why I cannot drink.
Knowing that you cannot drink is the first step, but it takes a good while to learn how to live without a routine that has punctuated every day for years. Even if alcohol were not addictive, cutting booze out of your life would still be daunting when everywhere you look people seem to be happily drinking. People seem to need to drink. Our culture sells it hard.
That’s where community comes in. Whether you attend meetings or post in a cyber community or both, it is the shared experience of working toward finding a new way, that ends the dizzying blur. Talk about what you’re feeling, as often as you need to. Reach out to others and let them reach back to you. Ask a question, share a resource, rant and rave, or simply share your doubts and fears or triumphs. It works. Community works.
I began to find in my third and fourth month AF that my life was actually much better without the booze but it took daily work to get there. It took surrendering to knowing that I was different. Surrendering to accepting that others could drink but I cannot. It took surrender and then it took Hope. The hope came from listening to the people in my community who were ahead of me, sharing their experience, reaching back to show me that it could be done and that it was worth it.
If you have found that drinking often leads to painful drunken regret, then you will most likely be happier if you take the booze variable out of the picture
Cut the umbilical cord
File for Divorce
Retire from a long and illustrious drinking career
You Do Not NEED to drink , no one does …. think about it…..
I thought about it alot and figured out many of the reasons that I began drinking and drank too much We Drink to be Free and reading other people’s thoughts helped me so much along the way Nobody Drinks Like We Do For Fun.
There are a few articles on withdrawal and posts from BOOM members in this link How to get started and Keep going
This is the most recent post I’ve put together on the subject Walking Away from the Wine o’ Clock Routine.
I will not drink today because I don’t need to anymore and I don’t want to anymore.
Pick up a book
Open a browser