Day 34 Alcohol Free – I’m feeling more positive this morning and it‘s making a difference after recent struggles. When I usually feel like this I skulk off and decide I‘m going to drink. It’s that Little Voice that whispers in my ear. The Drink Now – Wine Witch – Devil on My Shoulder, that kills my sober momentum when I listen.
C’mon, just one. For old time’s sake.
It’s a small bottle. Just give yourself one night.
One glass of wine would make this beautiful afternoon even more beautiful!
Go on. Break the rules. Rules are dumb. F@ck discipline.
Just say SHHHHHH !
And I suppose yes I can go and have a drink anytime I want.
However I don’t want that awful feeling of failure the next day after I give in to that Drink Now voice. I don’t want the feeling of shame, the feeling of here we go again. If I do give in to the Wine Witch’s knell, it will be harder to say no and get started again. I’ll have to admit it to myself and everyone else, my daughter will be so disappointed – the trust will go. The old routine that I hate will be back, the awful headaches and anxiety will be back. I’ll just want to rush through the day to drink again. When I think this through it’s ridiculous that I would ever consider drinking again.
When I was drinking alcohol I knew that it was affecting me physically and mentally but I’d never really studied just how much this drug can affect every part of your body. Society insists that it is ‘normal’ behaviour to drink alcohol. When we don’t drink it we are often questioned why. Whenever I tried to go alcohol free my Drink Now voice was louder than any rational arguments I read against habitual drinking.
My Wine Witch pipes up when I’m overtired/emotional. Other times it likes to tell me that I’m a grown-ass woman accountable to no one but myself…when I wanna go out and have fun.
Just say SHHHHHHHHH!
My Drink Now voice just LOVES a little drama. My Wine Witch hates neutral, so it encourages me too focus on annoyance, sadness, excitement, achievement. Those are the things that provide her with a voice.
SHHHHHH! I Suussh that voice by reminding myself that I don’t drink anymore because alcohol is a psychoactive drug/beverage, a chemical substance that changes brain function and results in alterations in perception, mood, consciousness, cognition, or behavior. Alcohol causes a loss of inhibition and judgment – which can lead to you behaving in a manner you wouldn’t normally. It can change or enhance your mood making you sad or happy. It can make you euphoric or cause aggressive behavior. How it affects you is not in your control.
Alcohol gives the illusion of taking away your sorrow
But it just stores it all up for tomorrow
Doubling or even tripling it
Along the way
If you’re drinking to relax
Drinking to forget
Drinking to fit in
You can do all of those things
Without it affecting the future you seek
And if you can’t drink alcohol normally
You’re not weak
There’s nothing normal about consuming a poison you see
It’s just been “normalised” by the alcohol industry
‘Cos it’s all about profit
poem by ROK
Alcohol not only causes impairment of the senses but drinking it can lead to liver, heart problems, and other serious health issues.
What does your “drink now” voice say to try and trip you up? Does it try to sell you Moderate Drinking to stall your sober momentum?
You’ve proved you can quit. So drinking for one day is no big deal…you know how you love the way it makes you feel, or not feel.
You’ve been without me for long enough, your experiment proves that you CAN MODERATE! Let’s set REAL rules this time, and I PROMISE that you will follow them this time.
You think you are too fancy for beer now, fancy pants?
But What about Moderate Drinking? Why can’t you just moderate your alcohol like so many other people do ??
Alcohol is a drug. By design, it is not intended to be used moderately and even if you do use it moderately it isn’t a healthy choice for anyone. Alcohol Related Deaths are up 100% in Twenty years
Alcohol contains no vitamin or minerals. However, it does contain calories. Ethanol is soluble in water and fat, so it is able to cross cell membranes, giving it great access to do harm to cells and affecting the entire body. It takes approximately two hours to completely eliminate one (Standard) drink. So if you have four standard drinks in an evening ( two pours for most of us) your liver will be busy eliminating the alcohol for eight hours. To see how busy your liver is eliminating alcohol measure out a standard serving and check how many are really in your glass.
We are not really encouraged to drink in true moderation anyway. Just made to feel guilty if we can’t-
This moderation trap caught me several times, and each time, it’s harder to find the door back to alcohol FREEDOM. But I’m no fool. I know one drink means one binge for me, and that shame and disconnect would dog me for days in the aftermath.
Never allow yourself to be questioned if you make a decision to remove alcohol from your life. If you are having trouble shushing the Drink Now voice read this to your Wine Witch. Health Effects of Alcohol Check out the information here How to Stop Drinking and Stay Sober – Understanding Your Addicted Brain and grab a bit of community support and inspiration here BOOM Rethink the Drink
“I am not weak because I can’t drink like others. I am strong because I don’t.”
Never Forget that the Wine Witch never mentions:
-unhealthy drinking during work travel, starting with Bloody Marys, to white wine, to rum & diet, to red wine, to Baileys with coffee–all during one travel journey, and all before taking a taxi to my hotel destination.
– showing up foggy at a morning work meeting, not prepared with the work, but with machine gun excuses ready for when my peers ask me for my presentation.
– waking up in hotel rooms, confused about what town, and why, and with who…moments of uncertainty… then the anxiety trying to count exactly how many drinks consumed yesterday, pretending that it wasn’t “that bad”.
– doing physical work as part of my job and sweating more than a married lady introducing her husband to her boyfriend at a social event…and when people ask why I’m sweating so much, lying about a medical condition that miraculously disappeared when I stopped drinking. Yes, I still sweat, but not like THAT.
– deep late-night conversations that led to tears and morning puffy eyes…with absolutely NO recollection about the topic…not knowing if I should stride into the kitchen and be casual, or if I should storm into the kitchen and slam things around to pick up where I left off the night before…but WHAT in the Hell was it about??? Needing to double check my phone for clues, retrace my footsteps, with no idea of what pain I tossed about the night before.
Nope, the wine witch forgets those moments, where the seduction of alcohol was more important to me than the love found in my life. She forgets the ill effects on my health, the unintentional sorrow inflicted on others, and the torn-up relationships.
She is toxic, and I have no need to listen to her Drink Now voice anymore.
To create the life you want
You have to want the life you’re trying to create
And time is finite
So you shouldn’t wait
How much do you want it?
It could be great
So here’s the thing about your AV ( alcohol voice)
It’s scared of losing you to its enemy sobriety
You might feel so good you’ll never go back really
So in order to protect itself and its existence
It forever seeks to alienate you
From all good things clearly
The more your AV fears you going away
Perhaps the more it exerts it’s power to stay
But it’s forgotten one thing about you stopping drinking
Alot is about mindset and you’re changing your thinking
Feeling energy less today
That’s pretty crappy
But still better than a hangover
So that makes me happy
I might have a cold or maybe the flu
So staying in bed is the thing to do
I don’t feel dazed
Or zombie crazed
I’m liking this road
That’s sober paved
poem by Floss
How do you go Sober? ( more reading in blue titles)
B Be accountable Talk to Us We Understand
A Avoid alcohol like the plague Ideas Here
L Let yourself enjoy regular sober treats Ideas Here
A Allow yourself to cry when needed Ideas Here
N Nourish your body with good food Ideas Here
C Create happy & fun memories Ideas Here
E Enjoy the precious moments in your day Ideas Here
W Work hard to get what you want Ideas Here
O Organise things for less stress Ideas Here
R Realise you can’t control it all Ideas Here
K Keep going & prepare for success Ideas Here
S Sleep enough for body & mind rest Sleep Solutions
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